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Economic worldview -> Sacred worldview

I love to lose myself in Chinatown – chandeliers, mushrooms of every variety, cherry bark, tobacco, jasmine pearl tea, rambutans, so many fish.  I hear sounds that I don’t understand.  It’s another world, and if you know me, you know I love feeling immersed in sensory stimulation and other worlds.  

I also love Chinatown because my great-grandfather Morris, who died in 1975, walked these streets and the streets of the Lower East Side with the dust of Lithuania on his shoulders.  I can feel his energy and his presence through time.  I imagine us walking under the same sky. 

Spatially close but sometimes worlds away, some people eat squid in Chinatown while a few blocks away other people eat celery root pot pie on the Lower East Side while decades ago my great-grandfather ate a pickle.  

Our lives are full of so many possible permutations. Metaphorically speaking, you are so close to the other worlds of possibilities that you have in your mind. If you have begun the energetic work of imagining and beginning, it is already taking shape.

Morris’s world took shape exactly as it was laid out for him by his father - and I know this because my family has decades of letters between worlds - the old world; the new world. His vision - honor God, find a woman, have children, and trust that your livelihood will be taken care of. All of this came into being. It was the life imagined, and then lived.

We live inside our worldview. It is usually unconscious; we simply live inside our world as we see it. Our worldview is shaped by time, cultural conditioning, our personal stories, and our inner emotional landscape.

Our worldview shapes our vision of what could be. It is the roots of our actions and the way we go about things. Our worldview shapes the possibilities and outcomes of our lives.

Consciously working with our worldview can reshape the outcomes of our lives and work if we want.  We can explore what our worldview is rooted in and then make a conscious choice to expand or shift our worldview if we wish.

Just as we step onto planes in one place and step out of them in another place, we can shift our worldview, and become more conscious of our habitual choices. We can time travel by shifting our worldview.

What is your worldview?

Sacred Worldview + Economic Worldview 

Your vision of the future world reflects your worldview. 

What do you believe?  

What world are you living inside?

As I crave more space for slow time, connection, collaboration, pleasure, expansion, love, I have become interested in the kind of world these experiences can thrive within - along with the emotional roots that create different worlds.

The Economic Worldview

The Economic Worldview says that anything that can sell and have economic gain is meaningful and valuable, and anything that can’t sell is without value.   

This worldview establishes relative value between people and things.  We turn what is evolving and pulsating - life, learning, rest, desire - into a commodity.   

The push is to maximize economic gain, to measure worth in numbers, and to seek validation relative to how others view us rather than through our relationship with ourselves.  That frames how we pursue opportunities and make choices in our lives. 

Reward and punishment, low risk, and low self-expression abound.  We care about what will sell.  This is a transactional worldview; a world of promotion. In my observation, it is rooted in fear.

At best, an economic worldview can spur continuous improvement, innovation, and growth.  At worst, the Economic Worldview creates disconnection.

The Sacred Worldview

The Sacred Worldview values all life, and this inspires feelings of love, compassion, and responsibility. Appreciation for life turns your learning, your activities, your self-expression into a relational creation, rather than transaction.  The Sacred Worldview sees the world as symbiotic and interdependent, naturally right.  We are all integral parts of a larger unified whole.  We all have intrinsic worth, regardless of what we sell.

Wholeness, becoming, consciousness, bliss, awe, mystery, reverence, joy, dignity, rapture, amazement, abundance, collaboration, and connection are supported in the sacred worldview.  We tap into the natural abundance of the world- our rich and sacred flow of creativity, service, experiences, conversation, feeling, learning, relationships, spiritual transformation, and visibility.  

In this Sacred Worldview, enrichment, wealth, and money are all part of natural flow and abundance.  Rather than possessing, we allow money to be part of our energetic flow, like blood flowing through our veins.

Service, wealth, and love are intertwined.

As Kahlil Gibran said, “Work is love made visible.”  Work, he said, is “turning the voice of the wind into a song made sweeter by your own loving.”

Let your love permeate your offerings.

The Sacred Worldview nurtures collaboration and connection - but without the tools to work with our emotions, it’s really hard to live with this worldview.

Emotions and Worldview

We all want to survive.

Most of us want to thrive.

We want to feel worthy.

We all want to love and feel loved.

We want to self-actualize.

But fear is rooted deep inside our DNA. Our primitive minds have a survival brain that has a negativity bias. To survive on supposedly scarce resources, we scan our environment for danger. We think we need to be on guard, and seek destroy invaders who are different from us.

As we have evolved, we have developed a frontal cortex that can get the messages (of danger, threat, fear) from our survival brain and then know how to work with that.

But if we’ve been deeply hurt through trauma, as most people have, it is very normal to engage the limbic system, and fight, flee, or freeze for our survival. And when we are emotionally hijacked, sometimes we do things that hurt others - through devaluing them, harming them, lacking compassion, promoting shame and hatred, “othering” people, competing, and creating false hierarchies of worth.

Sometimes exploring your worldview means stepping on a plane…or a boat. Often it means exploring your inner landscape of emotions, and becoming more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and needs - as they are now. Time travel can happen without physically going anywhere else.

Befriend All of You

If you are feeling the drive for survival drive in your business or career, sometimes that gets you to improve your performance. Go deeper. Is your drive to survive rooted in fear or love? Become aware of what’s happening in your thoughts.

Befriend fear. Notice and accept the presence of fear without pushing it away. Allow yourself to notice it so you can come to understand it more.

Feel into your heart. Allow your heart to soften, and explore your feelings underneath the fear. How are you feeling vulnerable? What parts of yourself are you seeing that you don’t like or don’t want to accept - guilt, shame, feeling not enough, feeling wrong or bad?

Ask your most vulnerable self how you need to nurture and love yourself. Perhaps you need to offer yourself forgiveness, release some tears, hold yourself tight in a blanket, dance, breath deeply, or tell yourself that you are loveable exactly as you are.

As you heal yourself, you can heal the world.

It takes conscious commitment to know and nurture yourself to move into compassion, collaboration, and natural abundance. It also takes repetition, as life is fluid and dynamic, and new circumstances arise that help us continue to cultivate our self-love.

Imagine who are and what you will create in your vision for your future when you are consistently bringing love - rather than fear - into your soft heart.

Practices

1.    I invite you to look at the world of emotions, ideas, and beliefs that have created the world you inhabit.  What is the worldview inside of you?  What emotions is your world rooted in? What emotions would you like to consciously cultivate?

2.    Who are you inside the Sacred World - a world of collaboration, natural abundance, safety, and love? What do you create?

3.    What helps you move between worlds?  For me, it’s walking in a new neighborhood, stepping onto airplanes, meditating, swimming, floating, drinking tea, drinking cacao, sex, talking to strangers (not in that order), breathing deeply, seeing the stars, forgiveness practice, singing, reading, talking to kids or old people, sharing an emotion with a person I trust, writing letters, or being in deep appreciation and gratitude.  How do you travel between worlds? How would you like to travel between worlds today?

Offerings

Explore worlds inside you in this 40 minute guided vision meditation that starts with resting in your body and then seeing your vision.

If you’ll be in New York, join other luminous visionaries tuning into truth at the next Multi-Vision Lab on September 5th, 5:30-7:30PM at the gorgeous Assemblage Park Ave. South. Check out photos from the first Multi-Vision Lab.

I’m forming new masterminds for the fall, beginning mid-September. There is magical power in a group of supportive big vision people holding space for each other’s dreams in a worldview that welcomes collaboration, self-expression, and love. Book time with me by September 13th to explore masterminding this fall, getting ready to expand into 2020 with a community of support and accountability.

Cats Eyes, Incense, and Hustle Porn - What is Time, Really?

Cats Eyes, Incense, and Hustle Porn - What is Time, Really?

You are afraid of it slipping by. The more it elapses, the closer you are to death, deadline, judgment, completion, and meeting the expectations of others.

It is your friend. It deepens flavors, develops character, illuminate insight, allows for evolution, and ages wine just right.

How ominous. How exquisite.

Your relationship with time creates different realities and experiences in your life. At both extremes, your relationship with time can cause breakdowns or breakthroughs for different reasons. 

What is your relationship with time?

There are at least two ways to look at time.

  1. We can see it tick by in uniformity in clock time.  A minute always equals a minute.

  2. We can feel it slowly.  In felt time, time can feel like it stops, drags, slows down, or speeds up.  

If you can identify and differentiate both experiences of time, this will empower you to consciously choose how to use both constructs for good, and avoid breakdown in favor of breakthrough.

Clock Time

Clock time can motivate you, push you to master your craft, and provide boundaries for achieving your goals.  It is certainly important to work well in the time you have, honor your time, and know that your efforts lead to outcomes.

I love the thrill of working hard and reaching a goal.  It builds my confidence.  When Britney Spears’ Work B***h starts playing on my Spotify playlist when I’m on a 6 mile run, I pick up the pace. 

But taken to the extreme, pushing yourself to achieve all the time means making choices that can neglect your relationships, health, and connection to yourself.   Speed can take you out of conscious and strategic choice and into reactivity. High achieving business leaders and entrepreneurs who have big goals can easily fall into this pattern.

Have you heard of Hustle Porn?  It’s a raunchy term that Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian coined last fall to describe the drive to grind, hustle, and work endless hours in order to get ahead. Hustle porn celebrates the martyrs who suffer to create something astonishing in business. 

But overwork and self-neglect is not actually that astonishing (or sustainable) for you or for business.  It can lead to health breakdowns, heart problems, memory loss, dropped IQ, loss in focus, loneliness, and performance decline.  Overwork and self-neglect can also lead to lapses in judgment (think Elon Musk smoking pot on air and Tesla shares plummeting). Overwork and self-neglect can actually make you lose your edge. 

Feeling Time Slowly

Can you imagine measuring time by looking into your cat’s eyes?

In Eastern cultures of the past, people told time by looking at the shape of their cat’s pupil. Time was also marked by the burn time of incense crafted to have a uniform burn rate.

Imagine the shifts in our culture if we all marked time by breathing in fragrant woods and flowers. Beautiful breath and inspirational markers of time would move us through connecting with others and creating our work. Consider that the Latin root of inspire is spirare, which means to breath.

Being in the material world is not just about linear clock time, being industrious, thinking rationally, being productive, and having a focus.  Life and work is also about elevation of the spirit, presence, energy, purpose, and conscious connection. 

Your time can be a conduit of beauty, inner peace, and connection to awe.  You can move through time while breathing deeply and making eye contact - while you work and while you step away from work.

In felt time, you think by feeling, as Theodore Roethke writes in one of my favorite poems, The Waking.  Time slows, and you are absorbed and open to what is.  

In felt time, you can move into what positive psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes as flow.  Flow gives you a natural high and a feeling of oneness. 

In the space between boredom and high stress, there is flow.  If you have so much mastery over your work that it’s not challenging, then you’ll get bored.  If you’re not great at something, then you’ll feel stressed out.  Finding flow slows your inner experience of time.

Slow time is a host for creative and strategic thinking. 

A broad sense of time creates an internal environment where you are more capable of creative thinking, according to positive psychologist Barbara Fredrickson.  Positive feelings (and not being in a heightened stress response) broaden your perspective and builds your social, physical, and mental skills.  In contrast, speeding through work can trigger the stress response.  In stress, you go into fight, flight, or freeze mode, and that narrows your thinking.  In tunnel vision you have focus, but you can’t see the bigger picture. 

Slowing time also helps you to get things right. 

Slowness allows you to move down a path with wise action, and doing things right so you minimize gargantuan course corrections.

Consider a research study from the University of Texas at Austin in which classical piano majors from Julliard learned three measures of Shoshtakovich’s Piano Concerto No. 1.  The researchers found that the most successful pianists slowed down during practice at the right points.  They intentionally paused to get the piece right, and they avoided learning the wrong notes.

This is known as strategically slowing down.   You can’t always learn by speeding up and getting things done fast.  That method reinforces the wrong notes.  If you put all of your resources and time in to the wrong notes (your decisions, relationships, products, and services) that’s a big opportunity cost.

Choice

You have a choice in how you relate to time. 

Knowing that clock time can motivate you to stretch your capabilities and achieve big results will help you to choose the clock time strategies that work for your goals, while also avoiding potential pitfalls.

Knowing that slow time is great for creativity, flow, strategic thinking, intimacy with your work, and learning will help you slow your experience and allow yourself slow time when your goal calls for it, and speed up when slow time isn’t a match for your goal.

Experiment

The writer Annie Dillard says that how we spend our days is how we spend our lives.

So beautiful.

Spend a day noticing when you’re in clock time and when you’re in slow time. 

Are you making the right choices for your relationship with time given your goals? 

Consider the experiences, feelings, and support that help you move you through clock time in an energizing and inspiring way. Write a list or draw a picture (or sing a song or make a sculpture). Consider the experiences, feelings, and support that help you slow down and be present in slow time. Make another sculpture (you get the point).

Choosing how you relate with time, and being able to toggle in and out of different rhythms, will help you be fully present no matter what rhythm you’re in.